You have found your dream partner through an arranged marriage or on
a matrimonial site, but how do you ensure that it remains fun. Love comes naturally, you do not have to do anything for it. And if everything goes well, impetuous love makes room for love, keeping it quiet. You learn to know each other better and that's fine. But that can also make it 'boring'. The stimuli that automatically make a relationship exciting in the beginning disappear and there is a good chance that grind and irritation will sneak into your relationship. You will have to finish all necessary steps to keep your relationship alive because it is important to keep feeling why someone is so special for you. These 5 tips will help you to make your relationship a success.
Respect and Accept Each Other
A relationship can only be successful if you respect each other. In the initial phase of a relationship is not that difficult and you like to do this. But you take off your pink glasses and you see that your partner is not the perfect person that you have made in his or her mind. The tendency to want to change someone is big. Respect means that you accept someone and allow them to be themselves. You do not always have to agree with each other, but you have to leave each other's values.
Give compliments and show that you appreciate each other. Appreciate your partner for what he or she does for you, even if it is still so small. Do not get caught in the pitfall to take things for granted. Also regularly give a sincere compliment, this gives the other person a good feeling because you also get a good feeling. You notice that this change brings you effortlessly closer together.
Positive focus
If everyday life swallows you, it's easy to forget why someone is so special to you. It seems easier to criticize because you can always think of something in which the other person falls short. But research shows that we see what we are looking for. So if you look for plus points and the positive sides of your partner, chances are that you will see them too. You will then interpret the words and behavior of your partner differently. This in turn influences your behavior towards your partner. Just try a week to focus on everything your partner does 'well' and see what effect this has.
Undertake new things together
Make sure you do not end up in a comfort zone together. For example, always go to the same favorite restaurant because you have such nice memories of it. Or every weekend to the same pub because it is so cozy and familiar.
It is not that difficult to avoid the grind of comfort of 'always the same'. Undertake new activities that can provide an 'exciting and exciting' feeling. It is not about what you do but it is about the feeling that it gives you and the memories that you create together. For example, go salsa dancing, boat camps or trampoline jumping. Go eat in a new restaurant or book a fantastic trip. You will find that one new fun experience will do more for your relationship five times a pleasant evening in your favorite bar.
Divide household tasks
Housework is not really fun. It is therefore important that you divide your tasks fairly. Because if one of you feels that he or she is doing too much, this can cause tensions and problems in your relationship. And there are many nonsensical things that you can get rid of unnecessarily. Just think of the cliché example: 'who puts the garbage bag outside'. Especially women are happier when tasks are distributed fairly.
Take time for each other
Do not let yourself be swallowed up too much by work and daily worries. Make time for each other. Time that you spend together in peace. It would be best if you had half an hour every day to talk to each other about the events of the day. In practice this does not always seem to be feasible. But make it a ritual to have real daily contact, even if it is only 5 minutes.
To keep a relationship nice and stable, you have to work on a solid foundation. Agree that you will do something together at least once a week and plan it in advance. A dinner, a fun performance or just sitting together on the couch with a glass of wine. Take the time to really listen to each other. Sometimes one good conversation can ensure that the basis
for a loving relationship becomes stronger.
