A common saying among married women is, “looks are deceptive”. This saying always starts after a marriage terribly fails or after a woman finds out that there is a big difference between the person she was dating and the person she got married to.
Some women end up saying they always have bad luck. Bad luck does not exist in marriage, it is the decisions we make that advice the outcomes we get.
In this era where people meet on
match finder, it is important for the woman to ensure that she is compatible to the groom.
Respect
Nothing makes a marriage hold like respect between the wife and the husband. Traditionally it is been known that it is the women to respect the men and it is the women to submit to men. This is very true, except there is one point missing. For a
successful marriage, both the man and the woman must respect one another.
You then ask, how will I know he respects me? Simple. Look at the following signs.
- Does he keep time when coming for your dates?
- Does he shout at you before other people?
- Does he belittle you in front of his friends?
- Does he manipulate you to do things the way he wants?
If your answer was yes to any of the three last questions, then know that your beloved groom does not care about you at all. Your supposed marriage will just be the beginning of your troubles. Whether you meet on match finder or through family, your groom should be able to respect you and your parents no matter their position in life
Likes and dislikes
While it is not common to find two people who think the same on everything. It is important that the person you plan to spend your life with, be someone that at least you have something you share in common. If you have different views on everything, it will just be a matter of time before your divergent views play out. This will probably cause the greatest rifts in your marriage life.
Religious views
It is very important that you share the same religious views with the person you want to get married to. Many marriages break up with religious views as the main catalyst behind the break up.
Never get into a marriage hoping that you will find a way around issues like religion, it will surely tear your marriage apart. One of the first things that you need to do after you have met someone on
match finder or any matrimonial site, get to know there religious views.
His goals
This is important because every marriage is built on the good will of both the parties. It is like having a MOU that is not signed. The only signature that will be on this MOU is the zeal of both the parties to do what they agreed on.
Get to know his career goals, his financial goals, his academic goals, his family goals. Then compare this to your personal goals, do they rhyme. If they don’t be sure that you wouldn’t be compatible for one another.
