Every marriage has its problems, which can arise at any time. The important thing is to learn to deal gently and before they destroy the relationship. Here are the best tips and advice for a happy and lasting marriage.
1. Find the balance in love
Boredom, frustration and daily irritations can extinguish the flame between you and your partner. You can get out of the boredom if you focus on the positives of your relationship. Here's how:
It takes an average of twenty positive remarks to offset the harm resulting from a single negative comment or impatient look. Therefore, reinforce the positive and moderate the negative. Compliment your wife for her new shoes, your husband for his new blue shirt. Thank him for his participation in housework. Call your partner from office to remind him/her that you think about them (especially avoid discussing chores or bad grades children).
Make sure your compliments and thanks are sincere and specific: "This table is very pretty. You find always a way to make our home a nice place." Look your partner in the eyes when you smile or compliment him.
When we adopt this attitude, we realize that, in addition to how to irritate the partner, we know how to please him / her. After all, that is how the relationship started. We also discover that it is still time to express our affection. When you return in the evening, tighten your arms and kiss to show how much you are happy to see him. On a rainy Sunday morning, surprise her by bringing her coffee in bed (and stay to talk with her). Appreciate the qualities and ignore flaws. You make lots of little things for your children; why not for your spouse?
2. Little touch
Touch helps release endorphins "pure happiness" in the giver and also the receiver. Walk arm in arm on the way to the grocery store. When you kiss, caress cheek with your fingertips. Over time, these small physical gestures will cement your love.
Also, resolve to spend 30 minutes a day together to talk about things of everyday life, your goals and your dreams; avoid discussing domestic chores or ask about the meaning of your relationship. See this half hour as a time to consolidate your friendship. Study results indicate that the friendly ties reinforce the love and sexual union. Make time for intimacy; even include them in your calendar. Spontaneity is good, but if you need affection or physical love, do not wait till the ideal moment arises.
Do not delay more when the opportunity arises to celebrate your successes. Super Bowl winners, champions of the World Series, gold medal winners all have one thing in common: when they win, they party. Even small victories are worth noting. If your marriage is going well, this is in itself a reason to celebrate. Go out to dinner where you made your marriage proposal or planning a trip off-season to Kerala.
3. Keep in mind that nobody is perfect
It is a mistake to try changing your spouse, it will put them on the defensive and we find ourselves in the role of the detestable character. The result: neither changes nor takes responsibility for his actions, and both are unhappy. Besides, turning your spouse ugly, you know that there is good in him and that is the essence of the person.
The solution is to change yourself. When one recognizes his own faults and pays attention to the qualities of oneself, the magic appears. Optimism returns. The partner will feel better because he knows that he is more appreciated and less criticized. And both members of the couple found the motivation to change so as to give rise to even more joy.
There is a Japanese philosophy of “wabi sabi”, that is to say the acceptance of imperfection. The next time your spouse does something that displeases you, take a deep breath and repeat quietly “
wabi sabi” by saying that his intentions are good even if he does it wrong. Remember an incident from the past your spouse helped you. For example: "She removed the snow on my windshield last week" or "when I am sad, he can make me laugh."
Finally, make peace with your imperfections. Know your good qualities, name them and illustrate them with examples: "I am loving and kind; Yesterday, I gave up the last Panipuri to let my wife eat” “I'm honest. I tell her what I really think. "
4. Bring some enthusiasm
Here is the classic advice that experts give to singles looking for the ideal partner. Happier you are, the more your wedding will be and the better you'll manage conflicts. If 15 minutes of morning yoga, the switch to decaf or a new hobby make you feel good, it will reflect on your relationship, which will be all the richer and happier.
Revamp yourself by wearing the best dress you have and wear a different hair style. Paint your mane, brush your teeth. Your spouse will fall in love with you for all your efforts. You know what you have to do next!
Indian Marriages and Couple bonding:
In Indian society, usually, the parents prefer go for an arranged marriage to get their children married from their own community.
Brides and grooms usually know their partner better only after the marriage. If you are a bride looking for a perfect husband or a groom looking for the most understanding wife, don’t worry. For example if you are a
Kamma community girl or boy, try to understand the culture of the
kamma brides or Kamma grooms and their family backgrounds. Be patient enough even if you find many mistakes in your life partner. The cultural background of different communities is different at different places. For example,
Kamma community culture is very different between Coastal Andhra Pradesh and Rayalaseema regions. When you understand your life partner, you would be able to accept the bride or groom imperfections. This paves the way for a happy and lasting marriage.
